Well if 2016 taught me anything it's that I certainly have finally figured out my type of man...and that's liars. The first step to getting help though is admitting you have a problem, right?
Last Friday was a huge milestone for me, which if you follow me on Instagram you'll know I posted about. It was one year ago that day I made the decision (with help) to change the course of my life. So much changed in that year that I'm still marveling in the fact a full 365 days have gone by.
I actually had an individual tell me that I should get online soon and "you'll be married in a year". Which is funny to me because who says I want to be married again in a year? Can't I be okay alone, forging my own path, enjoying the successes I'm able to achieve?
That last Friday morning I woke up, proceeded my morning routine of walking Homer in subzero temperatures, and then headed out to the gym before work (#humbleresolutionsbrag). As I drove my car the iPod I keep permanently plugged in finally warmed up from the cold temperatures and started playing on random. The first song that comes on is "Hakuna Matata" from the Lion King. "It means no worries," I sang along to the music blaring out of the speakers "for the rest of your days!"
And you know what, I realized mid-song that phrase is not a terrible philosophy for me to have in 2017. I don't need to have my life fully sorted yet. I don't need a "plan". I survived everything 2016 threw at me with my decision, and made it out the other side not only alive, but flourishing. My life is playing out exactly the way it should, one day and one decision at a time.
That night I went home and celebrated my 31st birthday with extended family who were in the area for a wedding. The date, January 6th, was completely unplanned by any of us; one year and 4 days since my disastrous 30th birthday party, exactly one year from leaving my husband. It was the best, unplanned, thrown together, laughter filled evening and late birthday celebration I've had in years. If that's not a sign of the amazing things to come, I don't know what is.